Inspirational thoughts and short quotes

I shall not live in vain

If I can stop one heart from breaking,

I shall not live in vain;

If I can ease one life the aching,

Or cool one pain,

Or help one fainting robin

Unto his nest again,

I shall not live in vain.

"Emily Dickinson"

"Looking at things from opposite windows, 

we may see each others lives. 

Yet we will never touch one another the way we can 
when were standing side by side."

April

Are you wondering?

It could be that one day you wonder why things just seem to keep getting more difficult to understand. Over time do you recognize yourself? Maybe your thinking that somehow maybe its just you needing to try harder. But ask yourselves, if you decide to look out a different window today (view)for a fresh breeze, will you feel alone will you feel refreshed? Maybe your accepting your place in religion, your families roles, your place in society. But when loving someone hurts you, hear your voice and to trust in yourself.YOU are the expert in you own life, stay whole,

Advocacy, why speak out?

As dedicated advocates, speaking out is one way we make change in the world. Our direct experiences with things give us a unique perspective. Public debates about these issues spread knowledge as well as opinions. When we speak about our personal  experiences, people listen and understand important issues in new ways. When were not heard an open forum is a way to empower ourselves and heal. This is just my opinion. Musicians, poets, writers are all empowered, by publicly voicing their love, happiness and pain. Why should people be  put in place by OPINIONS or censorship. Maybe an open forum is reaching out and that person needs something and had nowhere to reach because of being alone in a matter.

Wiggle your toes

Poam !  Representing a cause, belief, people, or your love...yet hide things to keep a good reputation.

Hide the truth, so we stay clean.

We stay in the light, for those who cannot see through screens.

We teach of trust, freedom of choice, a voice, respect, even love,

Therefore, the sins or mistakes some did needed to be covered up.

We are moving forward you see,

those wrongs had been dealt with, so were telling you to let it be.

As we slowly crushed the credibility of the few who spoke up,  keeping some things invisible

We have grown, learned and moved on, so that the majorities ignorance make us invincible

We represented your dignity, voice, choice; we managed and gave people what they wanted

No one complained as so many reaped the harvest

We lived life to the full, meant no harm,

so leave us alone, and shut up about what we do in the dark.

The truth will not hurt us;

we will hide it... hide you.

Trust us!!!

Or dignity and fun times will be taken from you.

I am so tired of people thinking nothing is wrong with tucking away indiscretions, and turning the issue around. Making the truth disappear because they think the truth doesn't matter or make a difference later on. Just to keep the cause or person clean.


And making it all about the person who speaks out and tells the truth. So whats the point? When does one let go and when does one not give up speaking out the truth? When what your upset about doesn't make a difference or seem to matter.


Invisibility and being trained to behave comes at a cost. Your sole! You will eventually loose yourself and become just like them...live in a bubble and justify roles, hide behind causes. You will rarely look out the same windows, because your view might only be considered when it benefits them. Eventually I have seen people mold, or give in.

To find love....

 "Will A WOMAN WHO WANTS TO FIND LOVE ...  DO WHATEVER IT TAKES FOR A HAPPILY-EVER-AFTER ... EVEN TANGLING WITH A PSYCHOPATH ...? "

" Miiddle-aged divorcee,  -  her search for a happily-ever-after costs her more than a price paid in blood-her soul is slaughtered. Now confined in a mental hospital, she must confront her greatest fears in order to break a -psychopath's control over her fractured mind."

From the book...CONQUER ALL OBSTACLES
Jo-Anne  Vandermeulen 

 Ladies, this is to us.

Author unknown.

Ladies, this is to us. Here's to all the girls who used to be his number one. The ones who waited all night for him to call, only to check the caller ID the next morning and be disappointed. The ones who made it through that bitter news there was another woman, dried your own tears, & moved on with your life, only to have him walk back in later like nothing ever happened. Those of you who cried on the first day you talked again because you knew exactly where this phone call was going. The ones who listened to him say, he only wants a causal relationship, just have fun", one day, and the next, reassured and comforted us. We deserve something better than this. Here's to the ones that took him back, knowing he switches on and off. We listened to our friends tell us that we were stupid for even thinking about giving him another chance, caught crap from our parents, & even snuck around to see him for a while. We started this out thinking it would be just friends, & ended up falling in love with him all over again. Here's to the ones who believed what he said, sat around all over again waiting for a phone call that might come in a few hours, or a few days. Here's for the tears cried and dried all over again. We wanted so desperately to believe that he was really busy, he couldn't possibly call us at that moment, or even that he fell asleep early. We trained ourselves to believe the lies because we wanted to believe we had found the one for us. We learned to settle for someone who didn't treat us the way we should be treated. Here's for the ones who did their hair and makeup & put on their prettiest earrings, only to hear him say that he couldn't see us today. The ones who never believed it when people told us there might be someone else. We just couldn't believe that he could do this to us again. This is for those great girls who loved him more than words can say, & took him back no matter what happened last time because they couldn't bear to look back on their lives one day & wonder "what if". This is for the girls that stayed up all night long worrying about him or listening to his problems. The ones who hoped he would realize that he deserved better, that he deserved us. When he said that he cared for us, when he was in love with her, he didn't mean it. This is for the ones that held on to something that was never there to begin with. Here's to the girls who couldn't cry to their friends because of how stupid they felt. The ones who held it all in when things came crumbling to pieces again. The ones that could just tell that they had made a mistake ever allowing him into their hearts & their dreams again. We knew that we deserved better the entire time that we deserved a guy who would call when he said he was going to, one that would come see us whenever he got the chance, one that would really care about us. We just wanted the one that we loved like that. Here's for the ones that finally realized that he never gave a crap about them. Here's for the time that he broke your heart again. This is for those days spent trying to hold back the tears, & the tears that turned into anger, then disappointment. Hears for us girls who finally realized that we deserve better. This is for those confusing days, when you miss him & want nothing more than to hear his voice, or feel his arms around your waist. Stay strong and remember that relationships are like broken glass; sometimes it's better to leave it alone rather than try to put the pieces back together & get hurt. Remember the times you cried & how long it took you to even be able to look at another guy like that. When 'your song' comes on the radio, turn the station. When the day comes that he realizes what a mistake he made & tries calling, turn your phone off. When he tries coming to your house, don't answer the door. Think of the broken promises, and the lies, the manipulation & the tears, the wasted moments and staying up all night wondering where the crap he was. Think about how the whole time he was with someone else he never gave you a second thought. Think of how your heart used to jump when your phone would vibrate in the middle of the night & how it fell to your stomach when you saw it wasn't him, and realized that once again, he hadn't called when he said he was going to. Think about how he used you, strung you along, the whole time defending his own honesty. You may think that you'll never care about someone like you did that guy that you always ran back to, but you should try. It's going to hurt like hell, & it's going to need time to heal, but the point is, it will heal. This is for those girls who fell back in love with their ex, only to get hurt all over again. Keep your head up, stay strong. ...