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The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships
by Harriet Goldhor Lerner

I liked this book because were encouraged to look at anger as a healthy alarm system that gives us boundaries just as fear, happiness, as all emotion is healthy when we adress it in the right ways. Anger doesn't have to be a fearful taboo. We all develop patterns in the way we relate to others and the book gives us exercises to look at how we repeat ourselves.  She talks about how the way one person acts influences the actions of the other, and how our anger with one another becomes a self-perpetuating dance.  Any attempt to change the patterns will be met with resistance.

She talks about how couples get stuck in circular patterns.  “Later, we were able to recognize the unconscious benefits we got by maintaining these fights. How STUCK the cycle of anger can make people.

She teaches us not to think in terms of blame.  “Relationships are circular (A and B are mutually reinforcing) rather than linear (A causes B or B causes A).  Once a pattern is established in a relationship, it is perpetuated by both parties.”

She gives us lots of wise thoughts about looking at our anger and learning how to break out of unproductive patterns.  This book is challenging your thoughts and gets you involved.

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The Path To Peace-Recovery From Psychopathic Manipulation and Abuse
https://www.facebook.com/hercules48This journey is about you now. You've given your life away long enough, but your healing is completely YOUR responsibility and that includes how you make it happen and WHEN, as well as your perspective and motivation of what the process looks like for you

John Bradshaw on the Family Video
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