Cheating Is Abuse: Childrens sports, nutritional needs, art, pageants.

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Writing so people can look at things from another view is harmless and gives us a better perspective... we make a choice. But when I see people who throw insults to defend themselves without looking at all the facts or where there going I don't follow because there bound to hit something.. Your views are important and Id like to see all sides unless your one of the people who don't look .

Sports History

How do we know if the a trainer is actually hurting the childrens future if training causes deforming injuries and tendon stress? Example!

When I was in Yoga the instructor could tell I was a dancer so I needed to adjust my stature a bit ... and when the doctors told me that even Wayne Gretzky had to retire that's never going to happen. But according to my physical rehab worker it is a good thing I never continued professional dancing and she told me about how Andre Kirk Agassi and other athletes suffered from pain.

Agassi wrote a book on this and he actually hated tennis because it took over his life. When Agassi was 9 his father stepped in and told Brown that he could play his son and he would put up his house for the wager. Thus the influence some of the parents and pressures of a child ."I know this for myself – it's something you've done since you were six years old, and there's a sense that if you stop giving 100% you are doomed to failure, and that is unacceptable. No wonder so many players hate their sport – the surprise is that so few admit it." - Agassi

That need to win can become a miserable addiction.A terrible fear of failure is one reason the life of the sports star can be rather less than the realization of a beautiful dream. But there are others: horrendous training schedules, endless travel, foul fans, boredom and lack of privacy. So maybe it is the pro athletes and past child beauty queens that should be expressing themselves if children are being pushed too hard and if they felt abused.

One movement repeated so many times, even hundreds of times. One set of movements practiced for five years. Notice the coach is equipped with hr slap stick?

Sports has been a way for people to increase their mastery of nature and the environment stemming from our roots. The past sports can teach us a great deal of resourcefulness and social changes.We still honor the skills of the late great athletes or warriors, even the first Olympic Games continue to this day. There were rough, and sometimes violent, sports to more gentile sports for the upper class. Today sports and other activities for children should give them many important individual skills and/or team building experience, making exercise or competitions an enjoyable social event and laying healthy foundations for their future. In Thailand there are parks where families can spend time every morning doing tie chi, there are even long horizontal bars for stretching out. In Canada I’m use to seeing kids more on the internet than with their family spending time together in recreational activities, but that is just from my perspective. Least our schools involve children in a variety of activities that some other children may not have opportunities to be involved in. Because some sports or competitions can be quite costly, and many hours of dedication may need to be invested, so there is a lot of time to stay busy and out of trouble for children. There is a lot of good coming from sports and other competitions towards a better future. But I don’t like looking at the hours of pain; the pressures from parents, the diets, that harm their body and minds. The messages were giving to our children.

Curled toes cramping, the pain of stretching muscles causes the child to cry loudly. Coach Xia says this is what a gymnast trainer must endure. The trainer is pressing the limbs?

What is going over the line and abuse! What can be done ?

Your child is being abused when someone uses his or her power or position to harm them emotionally, physically, or sexually or as a result of neglect.This is an excellent reference and to the point I would like to direct you to.

http://www.momsteam.com/health-safety/emotional-injuries/general/abuse-in-youth-sports-takes-many-different-forms

Some sports we see as acceptable like dancing, wrestling, gymnastics while others are seen as unacceptable like children kickboxing. Should parents be the judge where the line is crossed as to what constitutes abuse? For instance a TV show (dance moms) profits off exploiting children when a showing us a women who screams insults at children to get the best results for dance competitions. They win!!!! This bullying was going on for years and now we promote her as well as reward them all in watching them continue?

Emotional Abuse

Is a verbal attack on a child's self esteem by a person in a position of power, authority, or trust such as a parent or coach
Occurs even if the attack is intended as a form of discipline or is not intended by the adult to cause harm
Students and Parents should be requested to treat others as they would expect to be treated themselves.

Because of this treatment, impressionable children now know that it is OK to be verbally insulted or emotionally targeted despite what schools and anti-bullying campaigns are trying to portray. If this is allowed to continue aren’t we sending a clear message to children we don’t mean what we say and they have nowhere to go for help? No such thing as child protection, no such thing as safety from bullies, no such thing as accountability. Or is ongoing and purposely hurtful degradation acceptable behavior when it is for the purpose of sport, competitions, or contests and entertainment?

DANCE MOMS! When a parent was asked “What would you do if your daughter decided she didn’t want to dance anymore?” The Mom’s answer…”Slit my wrists.”!!!!! What!? Really? And combined with an 8 year old showing us how beautiful suicide was in her dance routine?

I boycott shows that I feel exploit children and I’m ashamed a woman who cannot dance herself, yet can emotionally abuse children with her words and more people are getting off on it? Suicide dance for an 8 year old? Reminds me of how circus animals were trained to be something unnatural for them. Kids are impressionable sponges and suicide needs to be seen in the proper context.When a mom adds that she would slit her wrists? A path to disaster…

A quote from Abby was if you never… blah blah keep your mouth shut. My personal response is don’t flatter yourself! Yes I could if I wanted to and same goes for goes you. If you don’t have child psychology keep your mouth shut, if you have never seen a child who grew up emotionally abused keep your mouth shut , if you never dealt with suicide zip it! Because I have and that’s why I speak out. If people choose not to listen, or throw insults at you to power trip then all the best, goodby!. As a confident adult I can ignore insults as meaningless with a smile, but not a child. Shouldn’t we all have balance when it comes to children. And were talking about verbal abuse being a weapon of control when men yell at a woman so why is it any different when an adult insults a child??? Mix messages or what?

Note: I watched one show.. it was when someone else yelled back at the instructor and the instructor shook in her boots and called the police saying the lady was hostile. Mirror mirror on the wall…. whose the biggest hypocrite of them all. All of us! Mike Agassi reportedly banged on the fences with a hammer during Andre’s matches when his son lost a point, screamed at officials and was ejected more than once. Such is life! We all get excited.

Social Service for Child Protection?????

People have adapted how circus entertainment uses animals.Yet we still parade our children the same way with the glamor that draws an audience for the highest ratings. In sports, we mold them in detail to develop their skills of balance and coordination. So where do we draw the line to what is abuse, and shouldn’t this be more defined? What is the boundary abut following a restricted diet for sports ?

Boxing is now acceptable when a child hits a child because it is all in sport with safety precautions. Hockey is getting some attention over violence, despite safety measures men are getting tragically hurt so how do we protect our children ?

Why do we let other adults be left alone with a trainer to do whatever they want to do to our children while we do nothing but drop them off when there being taught? School teachers are abusing kids, and this went on for years, yet we trust based on their positions in life and the winning results. Don't drop off your kids and leave without checking....

I even know a parent who wrote in the paper that she was angry at the pools lifeguards. When she dropped off her child outside the pool the mother claimed her child was touched inappropriately in the open showers. Lifeguards are busy watching kids in the pool, they have situations come up they need to be involved in so IF there was a pedophile it seems obvious that person would take advantage of the situation. What if this was the family change room,people cannot see through doors. So how stupid of the parent to not look at her own ineptitude and neglect to protect her child. Especially insinuating the fact she was singled out for being poor. How does a lifeguard distinguish being poor in a bathing suit?

I know its hard to get anyone to listen and believe you when you make noise to protect your children. Especially when your concerns have been hurting your child and the complaint has only other children, or no witness and your child is exhibiting signs of stress or abuse. I know how it feels to get undermined and your kids will also pay a price when no one likes your message… I know. That is why I am writing and trying to speak about this for other peoples children. My sons are grown and we all know the truth, that is when people finally take notice, that is if you even want to return to that dark place in your life.I feel we need government or laws to protect children that are actually enforced. I have said this before... keep a journal, even short and sweet chicken scratch because even in years to come this is a legal document you can use in court (use your own handwriting, not typed or reprinted).

Youth boxing.

August 30th, 2011
American and Canadian pediatricians have condemned youth boxing. In a new policy paper, the American Academy of Pediatrics and the Canadian Pediatric Society argue that the risk of concussion is too great for children’s developing brains. Because boxing is not exclusive to those with money, this has helped financially challenged kids stay out of gangs. But boxing is a sport which requires intentional blows to the head and torso. Repeated concussions can lead to seizures, dementia, and mess up brain processing abilities. So do we say it’s OK to continue because we don’t want those kids in the streets? We need a balance, children are our future and if we don’t invest we all pay a higher price later!

Because children seek the same approval and have the same need to have validation as adults, without the proper self awareness there more at risk. They eventually learn the boundaries we model for them, so why would adults glorify a child being exploited, physically harmed or verbally abused? Because we are being entertained? They are like sponges that will soak up what anything we introduce them to. Babies learn how to get our attention early by crying which is the only way they know how to communicate, then gain better methods to gain attention even if the attention is by acting out. Parenting is approving the moments when they have no words not just the moments that children draw approval by winning, being better, or on a birthday.

A child's diet, what is abuse?

I am in the store at 7:45 a.m. and a large woman comes in with 2 small children and she buys all of them sugar laced drinks, pop, chips, the kids dive into their candies and start eating. At breakfast? The adult and children were not just unfit; they were obese to the point where health problems would develop later on if they were not at least aware of a healthier lifestyle choice. I thought of all the teasing the kids have to put up with in school, as kids will tease for anything from what their name is to there size and how hard it is on their developing esteem. No matter how much adults try to teach acceptance it was obvious to me the different challenges she could face in her future if she continued to eat and dress like her mother (or Grandma).

If she had a medical condition the sugar, artificial garbage was not helping. Both their t-shirts didn’t cover their stomachs, her stretchy tight pants showed a crack when she bent. I know that one of the ways a woman feels better about herself is to at least dress comfortable in your cloths as well as wear clothing that compliments. I was low income, and my child lost or ruined almost everything so there is no excuse for neglecting to cover therm properly. Being on a low income at one time I remember children with no blankets, no food just after pay day and yet these parents made more money or had supports I never had. Yes, in school the kids who may end up teasing will be shot down for picking on this poor kid if they shoot her down over her weight. What a set up!

So for all us adults, what are we teaching our children when we see overweight people tear apart thin people just to defend their bodies and life styles when there really is nothing to defend because they truly are beautiful, I am jealous over there curves. So why be so mean and discriminating when its not right for thin people to do this either? I mean the bashing is really insulting and degrading both ways. We all have remarkable bodies that it seems no wonder men could never make up their minds, it is how we wear our bodies and feel about ourselves that reflects on what we dress like. Yes I see thin people get torn down just because they get on the photos but if it didn’t sell it wouldn’t be popular so the pressure is on to be thin. Let woman use their assets, use their brains, their wit, and their strengths and if you don’t have something someone else has why put them down for this? If you’re concerned for someone’s well-being that is different, and insults don’t help them it can make things worse. So back to the overweight children, I almost did mouth off the mother but because I was working and in a volatile situation I couldn’t. I wonder what people think compared to what people do to help a child in danger? The children are being abused as far as I am concerned.

I was at a hospital for children that dealt with emotional issues of children and the families, and a young girl of nine was starving herself and almost died. It took months for her to drink out of a straw progressing to mush. When we left she deteriorated and I heard she went back onto intervenes feeding. You know that the parent was mad and frustrated, he didn’t understand why his daughter was doing this. The mother had no clue the little 9 year old was starving herself. So why do we leave our children with expectations to be perfect or none at all so much, so that they hurt themselves not eating, or overeating. I’m sure you know an adult who has ideals they enforce onto their children because of sports, beauty pageants, and personal beliefs about dietary needs.

But in the end, yes I personally believe it is abuse when we deliberately don't insure our children are getting the nutrition they specifically need, (as we all have different dietary needs), to the point where it is effecting there overall health. I won’t get into digging through garbage to feed a child in great detail either; there is a religion that actively practices this.
Neglect is a chronic inattention to the basic necessities of life such as supervision, medical and dental care, adequate rest, safe environment, exercise, and fresh air.

Brooke Shields at 10 years old, mothers contract took president over her daughters. There are more seductive images out in the public but I don't want to post them here. I would like to draw attention to the question...At what point do we draw the line for publicly displaying or exploiting a child when it comes to art, entertainment, pageants, sports?